Assessing Summer Adventure Camp Readiness
Questions to consider in order to assess readiness:
- Has your daughter slept away from home before, at a relatives or friends house? Was it successful?
- Was it easy or hard for your daughter to be convinced to sleep away and then to stay away the whole night?
- Can your daughter take care of herself for the most part?
- Does your daughter express an interest in attending camp?
- How much persuasion is needed to convince your daughter to go to camp or to a specific camp?
- Does your daughter generally sleep through the night?
- Is your daughter able to ask for help or state her needs when she has a problem to adults?
- Does your daughter rarely wet herself at night or during the day?
- Is your daughter able to express her feelings in words reasonably well?
- When your daughter is upset, does she eventually ask for and accept help?
- Does your daughter recover from setbacks reasonably well?
- Has your daughter started taking a new medication or had an emotional setback just before camp starts?
- Are you and your daughter comfortable with the communication and cell phone policies during camp?
- If flying to camp, are you and your daughter comfortable with the airline policies and camp procedures regarding minors flying without an adult?
Prepare for Camp
Both you and your daughter have determined that she is ready to go to camp, but you still worry about her getting homesick. Here are some things you could do with/for her to help mitigate any homesickness that might creep up on her while at camp.
- In some cases homesickness stems from nervousness about one activity, like backpacking or rock climbing. Go over all of the camp’s activities with your daughter so that she knows what to expect, perhaps putting more focus on the activities or situations she may be more nervous about.
- Have “practice sleepovers” before camp by letting your daughter sleep over at friends’ houses for consecutive nights.
- Discuss what camp could be like and consider role-playing certain potential camp situations that your camper may be nervous about or hasn’t considered yet.
- Pre-write letters to be distributed to your daughter throughout camp. Provide these letters to Alpengirl ahead of camp as mail cannot be received during camp.
- Send her off to camp with one or two addressed, stamped envelopes and paper for her to write letters to you.
- Don’t bribe your daughter to come to camp. This sends negative messages and if you are resorting to bribing, she is probably not ready.
- Pack a personal item from home that will make her feel more comfortable.
- Talk to your daughter about being away from home for the camp’s duration. Let her know that you will miss her and that you know she is a strong girl who can go away to camp and enjoy it.
Homesickness at Camp
Homesickness is completely normal and it’s not unusual for campers to experience a few days or bouts of homesickness near the beginning of camp, before the fun activities start and before they have really solidified new friendships.
Alpengirl’s girls adventure camps are appealing to girls who are ready to try a low-pressure adventure camp for the first time away from home. Alpengirl camp is a great place for girls to work through the challenges of being away from home because they are constantly busy with games and activities and are surrounded by a family-like group of new friends. Alpengirls come away from camp feeling accomplished in the challenges of being away from home, outdoor tent living, and reaching high peaks and lakes. They make many new friends and have increased endurance levels and positive self-esteem. Alpengirls are inspired!
For most girls, Alpengirl camp is a totally new kind of camp, girls are a long way from home, without a friend or family member and sleeping in tents and living outdoors for an extended period of time; you can expect a few days of adjustment in gaining personal comfort, becoming more resilient and making real bonds with others. If your daughter gets homesick at camp there may be a few tears, a stomachache, and declarations of missing home and family and sometimes a desire to call home or return home. We commonly see homesickness creep in at night before bed and in tents, we see homesickness exacerbated by nervousness with an upcoming backpacking trip or activity that they have a fear of and are not sure if they can do. Also, if girls are not feeling like they have bonded with new friends or if perhaps they feel like there are “no other girls at camp like them” homesick feelings can be intensified. There are less than 12 girls in a group at camp together, so, it’s a small and personal group and feelings are easily shared and made better or worse together as a group. It’s not uncommon for homesickness to become contagious in teen girls groups of this size and personal proximity and closeness. It’s also not uncommon for girls to bond over homesickness and help each other get through it and rise above it and have fun. Lifelong friendships can stem from one homesick episode.
Camp Staff Caring for Homesickness
At pre-camp staff training, the Alpenguides will role-play scenarios of camper homesickness, they’ll receive helpful tips in how to care for campers with homesickness, and they’ll learn how to identify when homesickness becomes unhealthy for an individual or the camp group. Alpenguides are not therapists, but, will do their best to work through homesickness with your camper if she gets homesick at camp. We care about your daughter and want her to remain at camp and have the fantastic time we know she can have if she wants to and is ready to. To help her with her homesickness we’ll talk to her and listen to what she has to say and give her a hug if she wants one. We’ll reassure her that feelings like this are totally normal and that it can take time to get used to being away from home in a new situation like camp. We’ll try to get her to talk about what she’s most excited about at camp and have her look ahead to that, we’ll keep her busy so she has less down time to think about home, and we’ll address her concerns. Camp staff will continue to work with your daughter for as long as she expresses homesickness, until we think that it is detrimental to the well being of her or others at camp. If there is more than a bit of homesickness during camp, camp staff will call and consult with camp parents on how to best proceed and receive helpful parent information that may assist the camper in moving beyond homesickness. If camp is well underway and homesickness is debilitating or interrupts the groups enjoyment and she continues to expresses a desire to go home or to be calling home in order to get through camp, staying at this type of wilderness based adventure camp is not an option. It’s possible that this type of overnight camp was too much for her at this stage and that she’s just not ready yet. Don’t punish her for coming home early and you can try it again next year after encouraging more independent actions and overnight away from home experiences throughout the year.